Fatherhood is changing in the United States. In fact, fathers (57%) are virtually just as likely as mothers (58%) to see fatherhood as key to their identity, Pew Research Center reveals. 54% of dads also find parenting rewarding all the time, in contrast to 52% of moms. And, although it’s still far from being the norm, equally-shared parenting — which involves parents sharing childcare and housekeeping responsibility — is a growing trend among young families.
Increase in stay-at-home dads
7% of fathers in the U.S. are stay at home dads, up from just 4% in 1989. Dads therefore account for 17% of all stay-at-home parents (which is an increase from 10% in 1989). Whereas 6% of Millennial dads stay at home with the kids, only 3% of Gen X fathers did the same when they were the same age. Although the reasons for men embracing stay-at-home parenting are numerous, wanting to care for and bond with their child is a prime driver. In fact, almost 25% of stay-at-home dads say this is their main motivator (up from 4% in 1989). 78% of stay-at-home moms, comparatively, say bonding with their child is the main reason they stay home, an 8% drop since 1989. Other reasons stay-at-home dads are increasingly common include: eliminating childcare costs, disability or chronic illness, and job loss.
Dads more involved in childcare than ever before
Dads spend around eight hours on child care every week — which is triple the amount of time they spent 50 years ago. Although they’re still spending more time with their children overall, 63% of dads feel like it’s not enough (compared to 35% of moms). Both mothers and fathers say work responsibilities are the main reasons why they feel they don’t spend enough time with their children. Moreover, fathers are even becoming more involved during pregnancy. For example, baby showers for men (aka dadchelor parties) are now increasingly common. Baby showers for both moms and dads are a fun and meaningful ritual that lets both parents celebrate their impending arrival. In addition to gift giving, a successful baby shower simply isn’t complete without games. Humorous baby shower games are a great way to help guests relax and feel more comfortable, particularly if they don’t all already know each other.
Equally-shared parenting: a growing trend
Equally-shared parenting is a growing trend, particularly for parents who desire success in both work and family life. For example, fathers now spend around 10 hours a week on household chores, up from four hours fifty years ago. In contrast, mothers spend around 14 hours on childcare and 18 hours per week on housework on average. Equally-shared parenting, however, isn’t without its challenges. Research from Cornell University found most parents who plan on sharing parental roles equally end up drifting back into traditional gender roles over time, which decreases feelings of satisfaction for parents.
Fatherhood is undoubtedly changing the U.S. With fathers now actively participating more in raising their children, families are benefiting from stronger parent-child bonds and greater quality of life.